Making The Guy Fall In Love With You - Dos and Donts

The age old question “how to make a man fall in love with you” has no clear cut answer: there’s no secret ingredient you can eat, no secret potion you can inhale, and no powder you can roll around in to make true love find its way to your heart. Instead, the answer to how to make a man fall in love with you involves a tapestry of many things. Like a fine woven quilt, each thread plays a significant role in the beautiful product.

For the single gal, this doesn’t offer much help. You want to know how to make a man fall in love with you and, odds are, you want to know now. If we don’t tell you, you’ll click away from this website faster than you’d click away from a popup advertisement.
Very well, then – to make a guy fall head over heels in love with you (or at least like you a whole lot) consider the following:

Be yourself: I know – this advice is so corny it’s practically a starch. Yet, I offer it for a few reasons. First of all, be yourself because you’re awesome. Second of all, be yourself because

that’s the person you are inside. There’s little point in researching how to make a guy fall in love with you if he’s just going to fall in love with the person you’re pretending to be, instead of the person you really are.

Play a little hard to get: Ah, the good old game of hard to get. It’s a classic, like Donkey Kong or Tetris. But, it’s still effective. The concept of hard to get works on us guys for one main reason: we always want what we can’t have. When you play hard to get, we see you as off limits, and that makes us not only want you more but also want you immediately.

Don’t be desperate: Many women equate desperation with extreme acts – stalking, calling ninety-six times a day, spreading a rumor that every other girl within a five mile radius has the herps. But men view desperation in more subtle tones. Something as minor as emailing us immediately after a first date or calling us before we call you may come across – in our eyes – as grasping at very desperate straws. This tends to backfire: it makes us hard to get. In other words, being desperate isn’t attractive, not on you or anyone else. 

Let go of the past: One thing guys really don't like about girls is their inability to let go of the past: they never leave their baggage at the door. Instead, they bring it in and open it right in front of us. We have no choice but to sit and listen as they talk about Brent who left them for their roommate and Aaron who cheated on them with a goat. These girls are bitter, defeated, and hell bent on finding anything and everything wrong with any man they encounter. They are so unattractive because they are a waste of time: they go into each relationship just knowing it will fail and then, lo and behold, it does. It's not too hard to see the correlation. 

Don’t set rules: Dating comes with a lot of unnecessary rules: call after three days, don’t sleep with each other until four dates, and never discuss your unyielding love for Sarah Palin (or any other politics). But, these rules get in the way of having fun and experiencing each other. So, don’t set them. Instead, when wondering how to make a guy fall in love with you, let things happen naturally. Forcing issues and setting rules on a new relationship is like poking a grizzly bear with a giant stick: it won’t end well.  

There will never be one answer to the question of how to make a guy fall in love with you. But, the above allows you to make a first good impression, which gets your foot in the door and then - who knows- where else.

 

Got something to add to the discussion? Tell us in comments!

Did we miss your favourite one-off wonder? Let us know! If you would like to comment on this story or anything else you have seen on Oluinfotech, head over to our Facebook page or message us on Twitter.