HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE MARRYING THE RIGHT PERSON

Don’t Enter Marriage Thinking That All You Need is Love

Finding Miss or Mr. Right in not always an easy thing to do. Once you think you’ve found the right person, you may have doubts. Having doubts about who you are marring is not only normal, having doubts is healthy.

Hopefully you already know that you shouldn’t marry someone who drinks too much, spends too much, work too much, brags too much, uses drugs or other illegal behaviour, or is unfaithful, cruel, or dishonest.

If you future spouse is free of those destructive and you are still having doubts about getting married, read through these statements. You will see if your doubts are reasonable and worth paying attention to or if you are having cold feet about getting married without any rational reasons.

Happiness and Emotional support

You will know you are marrying the right person when you feel support and encouragement about your own growth both emotionally and intellectually. The right person will want you to be emotionally healthy and able to stand on your own two feet. When you are with the right person you will feel god about yourself, safe, and fulfilled.

Affection, Love, and Sex

 You will know you are marrying the right person if your future spouse says “I love you” not

only in words spoken, but by loving actions. We define loving actions as doing things such as noticing when you are tired, remembering your birthday, wanting to spend time with you, listening to you, showing you respect, calling if you are running late, showing you affection, being patient with you if you don’t understand something communication, Goals, and values: Having different likes and different opinions is okay as long as the two of you agree to disagree, Although you may not always agree with one another, conversations with the right person will be interesting and not boring. The right person will communicate thoughts and feelings with you and will not keep hurts and concerns bottled up inside.

Trust and Honesty 

The right person will trust you and not monitor your phone calls, or computer usage, or limit the amount of time you spend with others you care about. You will know you are marrying the right person if your future spouse does not try to isolate you from your family and friends. You not only need to belong to family, friends, groups, etc, you have the right to do so. The right person in your life will not try .to control your life but will want to share a life with you. The wrong person will make you feel as if you have to walk on egg shells in order to keep peace in your home.

Red flags in Your Relationship 

If you realize that the there are red flags or problematic issues in your relationship, don’t ignore them or delude yourself into thinking that the red flags aren’t that. 

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