Ask Dr. Iris: How Can Anal Sex Harm You?

Whenever my boyfriend and I get intimate, whether it be having sex or just a passionate makeout, I get hives on my butt, hands, and sometimes thighs and arms. They usually go away within the hour but they have lasted for several hours at times. People have said I'm probably allergic to some product he uses, but we can cuddle or sleep next to each other without problem. I just want an idea of what's causing it and if I should be concerned.
 
Don’t worry, what you have is called cholinergic urticaria. It’s a category of hives that results from high body temperature or sweating. You’re not alone; many women and men get this, sometimes after a hot shower, sometimes after exercise, sometimes after eating spicy foods

7 Secrets for a Successful Introvert-Extrovert Relationship

 

Introvert-extrovert relationships can be wonderful and satisfying, but they definitely require communication and compromise, which is one thing they have in common with, oh, every other kind of relationship in existence. Here are some tips for keeping your introvert-extrovert relationship running smoothly: 

1.  Define your needs. This means you have to be much more specific than “I feel like going out.” “Well, I don't.” Why do you want to go out? Are you craving fresh air? A change of scenery? Is there a specific event you want to attend or person you want to see? Why do you want to stay in?  Are you physically tired? Engrossed in a task? Not up to dealing with crowds? When you establish exactly what you want out of going out or staying in, it's often possible to find an activity that suits both your needs. If your objective is to stay on your own turf and your partner's is to get to know her BFF's new boyfriend, maybe you can satisfy everyone by having the two of them over for beers and board games.

2. Define your boundaries. We're complicated animals; it's rarely as simple as “I'm an introvert, I hate other people” or “I'm an extrovert, I hate being alone.” There are probably

15 Surprising yet Totally Wonderful Upsides to Long Distance Relationships

When you finally do get to share the bed, it's pure joy.

1. You never get sick of each other. Because you only see each other one or two weekends a month — less time than you probably spend, collectively, like, doing laundry.

2. Each weekend spent together is like a mini vacation. Long distance relationship people who watch TV together actually WATCH TV together (read: cuddling, giggling, enjoying each other), rather than having the TV on while they sit on the couch and read their phones with the cat in between them. Or if the weather's nice we get off our asses and actually use those free aquarium passes his aunt gave him. Because time is precious and no second together can be wasted looking mindlessly at emails you've already read on your iPhone.

18 Ways He Secretly Says "I Love You" (Relationship Talk)

He'll watch Frozen with you and then talk about how much he loved the snowman.

1. He texts you, "Good luck!" before a big meeting. Because he knows all your worries/problems/stressors inside and out and believes it's his job to constantly relieve you of them.

2. He trades you drinks if you accidentally order a bad cocktail. Even though no one knows how to make a margarita/tequila and soda/whatever your favorite drink is just the way you like it. But your tastebuds mean more to him than his own.

3. He texts you, "I miss you," out of the blue. He really means, "I love you."

4. He picks up your favorite veggie burgers/kale chips/hummus before you even think to ask him to. When you're together and want to eat something, he randomly procures one of your favorite foods as if by magic. (Which it kind of is, because he absolutely reads your mind.)

20 Things No One Tells You About Wedding Planning (Relationship Talk)

You won't get Champagne when you try on dresses, despite what rom coms would have you believe.

1. The part where you gaze longingly at cocktails in mason jars on Pinterest and decide what your wedding "look" will be really only lasts five minutes. 

 

Most of your time is spent researching and interviewing vendors, reviewing contracts,